Doing Our Best is Paramount!

We want to teach our children to do their very best at all times, in all things, so that they can glorify God.

Listen to the wisdom of God’s Word:

“So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” (1 Cor. 10:31)

“We want each of you to show this same diligence to the very end, so that what you hope for may be fully realized. We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised.” (Hebrews 6:11-12)

“He [Christ] is the one we proclaim, admonishing and teaching everyone with all wisdom, so that we may present everyone fully mature in Christ. To this end I strenuously contend with all the energy Christ so powerfully works in me.” (Col. 1:28-29)

We want to live this way ourselves, setting our children an example. Then, we want to instill in them a desire to do everything they undertake with excellence to bring glory to God. We want to teach them to be diligent in all God has for them to do and never be lazy. We want them to learn to give their all, strenuously contending for Kingdom purposes in their lives and in this world.

Here’s some examples of what this can look like:

1-When our children are playing a soccer game their focus should not be on winning the game or scoring the most goals, but on giving their all, treating the other players with love and respect, being obedient to coaches and referees, and encouraging those around them.

2-When they are working on a school assignment, their goal should not be to obtain a perfect score, or get the best grade in the class. They should strive to be diligent, not wasting time or allowing their minds to indulge distractions. They should try their hardest. And, they should avoid rushing through the task at hand to get to something else. They should remain focused, doing their absolute best. 

3-When our children are getting dressed in the morning, we can guide them to keep from trying to be the best looking person in any room. Instead, we can lovingly help them to focus on being thankful for the clothes God has provided them with. We can teach them to be obedient to our guidelines for what is acceptable. We can show them how to select and choose clothing that will best enable them to fulfill the duties and tasks that God has for them that day.

When we help our children shift from trying to be the best to trying to do their best it will filter into every area of their lives. They will begin to see that they can…

…wipe down the table to the glory of God

…run a marathon to the glory of God

…practice their flashcards to the glory of God

It is a beautiful thing to see our children learn to live life from the security of God’s love and to let that love motivate them to do everything with excellence, not to earn favor or beat someone else, but because they want to honor the one who loves them so well.

Being the Best is NOT Good!

Here are 5 reasons why you want to teach your children that being the best is NOT good!

1-If we are seeking to be the best we are in some way seeking to exalt ourselves over others. As believers in Christ, this should not be our goal. Instead, we should seek to exalt Christ while lifting others up. (Philippians 2:3-4, 1 Corinthians 13:4-5)

2-Striving to be the best invites selfish ambition into our hearts, and God’s Word is clear about how unhealthy that is for us. (James 3:14-16)

3-Putting an emphasis on being the best can confuse our children and cause them to believe that their value or worth is based on their performance. We want them to rest in our unconditional love for them apart from their achievements. More importantly, we want them to know that God’s love for them is based upon the fact that they were created in His image and chosen by Him, not upon them behaving a certain way. (Ephesians 1:4-5) God’s unfailing love can become a firm foundation for them.

4-The end result of trying to be the best will create one of two things, both undesirable for your children. Either they will feel joy and elation in placing others beneath them, allowing pride to swell in their hearts, or they will slump into self-degradation and doubt their worth, feeling like a failure. Either heart attitude is defeat for the Christian because both thrive on an inward, self-focus and buckle us into the seat of an emotional roller coaster that is unending.

5-Striving to be the best teaches our children to strive and strain when they are in a competition with someone, but provides no incentive or reason for doing the same when they are completing tasks on their own. Why work hard to do a great job sweeping the floor, if there is no medal to win or other person to beat?

What we want to teach our children is to DO THEIR BEST, instead of trying to BE THE BEST. There is a huge difference. My next post will unpackage that.

Back to Buisness!

Hello there!

It’s been a long time since I have written parenting blog posts, but I am back to the Kingdom buisness of sharing what truths God has taught me as a parent so that you can be blessed by them too.

Today I will post the first in a series of blog posts about the “why’s” behind our  parenting.

These posts will help you focus on important truths to teach your children and  the reasons why it’s so important to teach them these things.

These posts will be short and to-the-point so that you can be built up as a parent and still have time to keep on doing the things God has called you to do as His perfect choice for discipling the children in your life.

You’ll see the first one post today right after this one. Then, look for a new post each Friday in your inbox.