Here are 5 reasons why you want to teach your children that being the best is NOT good!
1-If we are seeking to be the best we are in some way seeking to exalt ourselves over others. As believers in Christ, this should not be our goal. Instead, we should seek to exalt Christ while lifting others up. (Philippians 2:3-4, 1 Corinthians 13:4-5)
2-Striving to be the best invites selfish ambition into our hearts, and God’s Word is clear about how unhealthy that is for us. (James 3:14-16)
3-Putting an emphasis on being the best can confuse our children and cause them to believe that their value or worth is based on their performance. We want them to rest in our unconditional love for them apart from their achievements. More importantly, we want them to know that God’s love for them is based upon the fact that they were created in His image and chosen by Him, not upon them behaving a certain way. (Ephesians 1:4-5) God’s unfailing love can become a firm foundation for them.
4-The end result of trying to be the best will create one of two things, both undesirable for your children. Either they will feel joy and elation in placing others beneath them, allowing pride to swell in their hearts, or they will slump into self-degradation and doubt their worth, feeling like a failure. Either heart attitude is defeat for the Christian because both thrive on an inward, self-focus and buckle us into the seat of an emotional roller coaster that is unending.
5-Striving to be the best teaches our children to strive and strain when they are in a competition with someone, but provides no incentive or reason for doing the same when they are completing tasks on their own. Why work hard to do a great job sweeping the floor, if there is no medal to win or other person to beat?
What we want to teach our children is to DO THEIR BEST, instead of trying to BE THE BEST. There is a huge difference. My next post will unpackage that.