“This crib is cursed!” This was the determination we came to after fifteen different people messaged us about buying the crib we were trying to sell and then backed out of the sale at the last minute. After the first two scheduled pick ups didn’t show I was frustrated, but my 14 year old daughter, Julia, said, “Mom, stop trying to sell that crib. God probably has it for some specific person.” That was a nice thought, but I kept right on trying to sell that crib. Three weeks and five more scheduled pick ups later I was beyond frustrated. Then, I received a message from a local pastor stating that he was looking for a crib for his church nursery. After talking with him and seeing the need our brothers and sisters from another church had for the crib, we decided to give the crib to them.
The crib wasn’t cursed. It was reserved for God’s people and Kingdom purposes. It all made sense when I looked back and remembered what Julia had said. As I pondered the situation, Romans 8:28 came to mind and I realized that every time I read or recited that verse, it was with myself in mind. I find it easy to embrace the thought that God works all things together for MY good. But, what about when He is working things together for the good of another who loves him and is called according to his purpose. Can I rejoice and celebrate that good even if it comes at a cost to me?
Joseph did this so well. He suffered terribly and unjustly for many years, and at the end of it all he was able to say that it was all for good because it was God’s way of saving many lives.(Genesis 50:19-21) He was able to be at peace with his own suffering and difficulty because it worked out a great good for others.
We will encounter this again and again in parenting. God will call us to the other side of Romans 8:28 then perhaps we intended to be on. There will be many times when we will experience frustration, difficulty, resistance, pain, and suffering as parents. Can we be at peace with knowing that God is working out something so good for our children as we faithfully minister to them? Can we let go of some of our plans and take up God’s plans instead?
Ultimately, there is a good in it for us also. I was more excited and blessed to give that crib away than to sell it. I got to experience being a part of God’s work and having Him reveal Himself to me as one who goes to great lengths to bless those He loves.
If you are feeling overwhelmed or frustrated by difficulties that you’re facing as a parent right now, be encouraged that God is at work in ways you may not be able to see or understand. He is going to great lengths to bless you, and He is wanting you to join Him as he goes to great lengths to bless your children. Stay the course. Continue in love and patience and be diligent. Very good things are coming!